Small Steps. Big Shifts.

Last week I sat on a jury for a murder trial. Three days. Witnesses. Evidence. Details I was not allowed to share with a single person in my life.

I am, by nature, an outward processor. I make sense ...

My daughter had a violin concert her senior year. I was there with my camera, proud and ready.

As the evening went on, I noticed something. Every time I stood up to take a picture, the woman directly...

Last week my throat started to get scratchy.

My first thought was: I'm getting sick.

And then I caught myself. I redirected. I don't have to get sick. I might be just fine. What does my body n...

Someone offered me a ride home recently. I was grateful.

Then we hit the canyon road and started barreling along at 70mph in a 45 zone. I felt uneasy. Then anxious. Then scared.

And I said nothing. ...

Resentment is heavy. When there's nowhere to put it, we carry it everywhere: into conversations, into our sleep, and into the way we react to people who had nothing to do with it.

One of my clients f...

My daughter, September 2025. Balloons filling, not yet lifted.

Monday night I stepped outside with my friend while she had a cigarette.

It was cold enough that I turned right back around and w...

What 9/11, Hebb's Law, and a bench at the memorial taught me about how trauma wires in and how we rewire it

I watched it happen on television.

Over and over. I think most of us did. We were in sh...

(Why holding two things at once can become a way to avoid feeling either one fully).

"Both/and" is one of my favorite concepts in healing work.

The idea that two things can be true simultaneou...

(Why feeling MORE dysregulated might mean your healing is actually working.)

I just had a hard week.

I was with family I love deeply, navigating some unexpected health concerns, stress in the hou...

This past Thursday one of my kids came into the kitchen with that face. Jaw tight. Eyes already filling. Before a single word came out, I could feel my own body wanting to jump in and ask what happene...