Small Steps. Big Shifts.

What 9/11, Hebb's Law, and a bench at the memorial taught me about how trauma wires in and how we rewire it

I watched it happen on television.

Over and over. I think most of us did. We were in sh...

(Why holding two things at once can become a way to avoid feeling either one fully).

"Both/and" is one of my favorite concepts in healing work.

The idea that two things can be true simultaneou...

(Why feeling MORE dysregulated might mean your healing is actually working.)

I just had a hard week.

I was with family I love deeply, navigating some unexpected health concerns, stress in the hou...

This past Thursday one of my kids came into the kitchen with that face. Jaw tight. Eyes already filling. Before a single word came out, I could feel my own body wanting to jump in and ask what happene...

I've been stretching my pinky toe.

It's been a little too friendly with its neighbor for as long as I can remember, just leaning in, curling slightly, making itself at home. It's always just been that...

What a client taught me in 2015 that changed everything about how I do this work

A client said something to me in 2015 that I didn't have a good answer for.

"We rolled on that emotion before and ...

Before I recorded my first podcast episode earlier this month, the self-doubt showed up.

Loudly.

Who do you think you are? You're no expert. What if you freeze? What if you say the wrong thing?

I t...

Two years ago I ended a seven-year friendship. It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made, not because I didn't have support (I had a lot of it), but because this friendship had genuinely give...

Does the colder, darker season bring a heaviness you can’t quite shake? You’re not alone. The shorter days, holiday stress, and pressure to feel “merry” can make this time of year challenging.

Tamara...