The Positive Behind the Negative

Guilt used to be one of my top emotions.

A few years ago, someone asked me what I got out of guilt.

This question perplexed me.

How in the world could I be benefitting from GUILT?

It feels terrible!

Being the curious person that I am, I chose to ponder their question.

What I found changed my life. 

Guilt means that something is my fault.

If something is my fault, then I can fix it.

If I can fix it, I have control.

When I feel like I have control, I feel safe.

When I try to fix things to feel in control, I focus on doing rather than being with my true emotions.

Learning this about myself helped me change my relationship with guilt.

We all have positive reasons behind our negative behaviors.

What is a positive behind one of your negative behaviors?