Let Go of Holiday Perfection

Last year, I spent hours hunting down what I thought was the perfect holiday gift for a friend. I was sure she’d love it, and I couldn’t wait to see her face when she opened it. Her response? A polite smile and a hesitant, “Thank you... it’s nice, but not really my style.” She meant no harm, but I could feel my heart sink as I reassured her she could exchange it.

This year, while making my traditional holiday pies late at night (because that’s when we finally have time, right?), I gathered all the ingredients for my family’s favorite raspberry cream and key lime pies. Then I realized both cans of sweetened condensed milk had expired—in 2019. The stores were closed, I was exhausted, and I had to show up to the gathering the next day without the pies everyone had requested.

How many times have you felt the pressure to create perfect holiday memories?

We all want to make the season special, but the reality is, the holidays often bring out our deepest patterns of stress and anxiety. Instead of falling into the trap of perfectionism, here’s how you can navigate those moments with more ease:

1. Quick Reset

When holiday overwhelm hits, pause and take a moment for yourself. Try a bilateral stimulation technique like butterfly taps (you can find this in the free Feeling Better App). It’s a simple, effective way to calm your nervous system in the middle of the holiday chaos.

2. Reality Check

When stress starts to peak, ask yourself: “Whose standards am I following? And how is it making me feel?” Sometimes we get caught up in trying to meet expectations that aren’t even our own. Use the EFT tapping sequence in the Feeling Better App to process those emotions and refocus on what really matters to you.

3. Mindset Shift

Instead of striving for perfection, reframe your mindset. Replace “Everything must be perfect” with “I’m choosing to be present.” This small but powerful shift can bring more connection and joy to your holidays.

Progress, Not Perfection

The holidays aren’t about flawless gifts or pies—they’re about moments of connection and meaning. When you release the pressure to make everything perfect, you create space to actually enjoy the season.

Next Step: Explore the Feeling Better App (available on Google Play and Apple App Store) for practical tools to navigate holiday stress. You’ll find Do-Torials designed to help you reset, reflect, and reconnect with what matters most.

Need extra support? I’m offering limited December coaching spots to help you feel your best. Reach out to schedule a consultation.

Let’s make this holiday season a little more peaceful—and a lot less perfect.