Why Receiving Support Can Feel So Vulnerable

One of the most important things I’ve learned over the years is that supporting myself — really knowing myself — is what allows me to show up well for others.

As a practitioner.
As a mother.
As a friend.

When I understand my limits, my needs, and my boundaries, I’m able to give from a place that’s grounded instead of depleted.

I grew up being helpful. People-pleasing came naturally to me, and I genuinely love that part of who I am. Caring, attuning, offering support — these are strengths.

But without balance, they can quietly turn into overextension.

For a long time, I was very good at being the strong one. The capable one. The one who could handle things. And while that identity can feel empowering, it can also make receiving support feel strangely vulnerable.

Sometimes receiving help asks us to soften control.
Sometimes it asks us to admit we don’t have it all handled.
Sometimes it touches old beliefs about being “too much” or needing to earn care.

This is where the work really begins.

When I practice supporting myself — listening inwardly, setting boundaries, responding instead of reacting — I become a steadier presence for everyone around me.

Support isn’t a weakness.
It’s a skill.

And like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and strengthened over time.

So I’ll leave you with this question:

What makes receiving support feel vulnerable for you?

There’s no right answer. Only information.

Exploring why asking for help feels hard, how self-support builds boundaries, and why receiving care is a skill we can learn.